Gay session
LGBTQ+ Castro engagement session San Francisco
These two delightful dudes are getting married (woot!) on September 14 2019! I managed to speak them into doing an engagement session in San Francisco’s Castro District where they live!
The enGAYgement session was ahead of their fall wedding. For the big day, they decided to have their wedding ceremony at San Francisco City Hall, and reception at the General’s Residence at Fort Mason. Check out the separate, detailed blog posts below for more on each!
Like many couples, they were dubious at first about doing engagement photos but absolutely loved both the experience and the finished pics! Yay!
The couple’s like story
The first thing that strikes me about this couple is now incredibly cosmopolitan they are.
Eduardo is Brazilian and works for a big tech company. Dieter is from Austria and has been in the States for 3 years.
Just days after Dieter’s arrival, the pair connected over burritos at El Farolito. From the beginning, their adventures took them on travels by air, and their like story took off.
It was Eduardo that proposed, and how fitting that he chose to accomplish so on an airplane!
It happened on a transatlant
An Introduction
My client sat in the chair looking down at the floor, glancing up briefly to produce eye contact, then darting his eyes back to the carpet. He spoke quietly, as if almost afraid to be heard. He clutched his hands throughout the session, showing all the markers of an anxious man in the throes of shame. He was a modern client to my practice: a married, middle-aged, suburban dad with a high-powered career. A colleague had given him my number months before. It took him a long second to muster the courage to call and create an appointment. Towards the end of our first session he looked up at me and said, “I think I’m in love…with another man. I’m scared and I don’t know what to do.”
I have worked with hundreds of gay men in heterosexual marriages struggling with being in the closet or wanting to come out from it. There is so much about these men that is misunderstood and very few studies or little literature to provide insight. I decided to share my thoughts and research about these men and their struggles at a conference a few years ago. That presentation led to other opportunities to tell their story and of my work with them. Those presentations prompted men to write to
LGBTQ+ Gay Sex Therapy
Why Decide The Gay Therapy Center?
Our LGBTQ+ sex therapists can help you learn how to talk about sex and feel closer to your partner at the end of the conversation. For example, when someone you love says no to sex, it has an emotional impact. We can help you both process the feelings that come up when this happens: how it feels when a partner doesn’t meet sexual needs, as well as how it feels when you can’t give your partner what they desire.
In our sessions, you will learn how to talk about sex in a productive way and let go of the shame surrounding your sexuality. Our approach is based on the doctrine that sexually healthy people accept their uniqueness rather than fight it.
Good contact is slow and deliberate, whereas fighting happens “fast,” often with partners posthaste saying things that are hurtful or unproductive. We will show you information techniques built on empathy, deep listening, and decelerated conversations that will make possible you both to fully hear each other. We want both of you to be able to talk about sex in a way that brings you closer together, rather than driving you further apart.
In addition to commun
Injecting drugs
Sometimes people inject crystal meth and mephedrone. With this there is an increased risk of infections and viruses like HIV and HEP A&B. To minimise your risk never share needles.
Set Group Rules
Agree in advance, and while sober, what sex you want to have – and don’t want to have. Make sure everyone is in agreement about what is going to happen and respect others boundaries.
Safer Sex?
Be upfront about the type of sex you want to possess – including if you want to use condoms. – and bring safer sex materials with you. Not using condoms can put you at uncertainty of STIs, and people on certain drugs may have rougher sex increasing the risk of bleeding and infection.
PrEP
PrEP is a drug which, when taken correctly, prevents you from contracting HIV. If you are going to possess unproteced sex with muliple partners and under the influence of drugs – PrEP could be beneficial in limiting your exposure of HIV infection.
Other substances?
You should avoid mixing drugs, with alcohol and any other drugs and never mix poppers with erectile drugs like Viagra – please check out our information on dosing for more advice o
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