Your gay fantasy
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Ask VICE is a series where readers ask VICE to solve their problems, from dealing with unrequited love to handling annoying flatmates. Today, we’re hoping to support someone who is lost about their same-sex attraction to a friend.
Hey VICE,
I can’t stop thinking about having sex with a close friend of mine and it’s weird because I’ve never, in my 23 years, been attracted to men before. Of course, I notice when a guy is excellent looking – I’ve always owned up to that – but I’ve only ever been sexually interested in women.
Now, though, I’m having dirty thoughts about my friend – when I see him, when I look him up on social media, when I masturbate – ever since he broke up with his girlfriend six months ago. He’s bisexual and has started hooking up with men too, so I keep thinking: ‘Why not with me?’
I’ve even tried watching gay porn to understand my situation better, but I didn’t like it. At the same time, I undergo almost too good when I’m around him – our bromance moments disarm me. He knows this too, and he plays into it quite a bit. A week ago, he said he was drunk and kissed me. He told me maybe it’d be better if we went home
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From the Smash Me Up archives: Our resident agony aunt Rhona McAuliffe offers advice to a reader whose fantasy sex life is becoming a little bit too real.
Dear Rhona,
I’ve been with my husband for almost seven years now and we have two minute kids together. Our sex life has been a constant, even when I was heavily pregnant, or we hadn’t slept in months, or my boobs were still leaking, miraculously, we still made period to be intimate.
We’ve always played around with distinct fantasies and role plays. A regular favourite of my husband’s over the last year or so has been a threesome involving another man. Our fantasy threesomes used to involve another woman so I was curious about her being replaced by a man from the start, mainly because I’m not turned on by the two men/ one woman scenario and battle to get into it.
Now, when we’re having sex, my husband often gets totally carried away with dirty talk about this fantasy man. They’re kissing or getting it on and I don’t even feature. I’m not watching or even in the room but I might walk in and trap them and then participate in.
I feel rejec Ask any sex therapist and they will tell you the number one scrutinize they receive. It’s “Am I normal?” The fear that our sexual fantasies and desires are not normal is at the root of many sexual problems. Sexual issues such as low libido, problems becoming and staying aroused, and difficulty reaching orgasm are some of the most common health issues today. Viagra and Cialis are among the best selling medications. Most of these problems own a psychological rather than physiological cause. Sexual shame is often at the root of these sexual problems. So let’s get to labor on that. A good place to start unpacking shame is to look at facts and research. And thankfully there has been some recent excellent investigate on human sexual desires. Justin Lehmiller, PhD, is a leading human sexuality researcher at the Kinsey Institute. His book, Tell Me What You Want, outlines the results of his exhaustive study. He asked over 4, Americans to acknowledge questions about their sexual fantasies and practices. The study included participants from all sexual and gender identities, all states, and ranged from ages 18 to Here are a few of his findings: .LGBTQ Sexual Fantasies and Shame