Mature straight men
Why do some straight men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the new book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they love a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly naming with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Sex with men allowed them to possess more sex. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and s
Why Straight Men Obsess Over Ryan Reynolds and Not Pete Davidson
Image Description: a rather unfair side-by-side comparison of Pete Davidson and Ryan Reynolds&#; faces.
Many unbent men I know include been fuming recently. Rumours have been swirling that Pete Davidson is committed with Kim Kardashian, as the two have been spotted together on various nights out, even allegedly holding hands at an amusement park. Sources possess varied on the world of Davidson and Kim K’s relationship, with alternative sources telling Us Weekly that “the two are just friends right now” and Entertainment Tonight that the two “are casually dating”. From Kim K to Phoebe Dynevor to Kaia Gerber to Ariana Grande, Davidson’s history of relationships has been proof of an immense popularity with women. The recent rumors, therefore, have not only reminded us of Davidson’s dating prowess, but has also left many straight men asking, not without a heavy helping of jealousy&#;&#;How?!!!&#; Or to paraphrase, &#;Why do women find Pete Davidson so attractive, and not me?&#; Correspondingly, and perhaps more intriguingly, why do linear men not find Pete Davidson attractive?
On the other hand, a similar phenomen
PSY - Psychology of Aging - Textbook
The Facts of Life in Aging Same-sex attracted Men
Older gay men own the same desire for physical and emotional attachment as do younger ones. As they age, however, they may be competent to step off what one writer described as “the unconscious, relentless, mechanical treadmill of desire.”
They’re still active sexually. The pattern of sexual activity a man had in his youth tends to persist as he ages. In several surveys, as many as three quarters of gay men report creature happy with their sexual life. In some studies over half of these men reported having sex at least once a week with a loved one and this is in addition to the masturbating that most men also do.
They know more about what turns them on and are less self-conscious about asking for it. Having more free second, less stressful work lives, and more self-acceptance contribute to an enhanced meaning of sexual possibilities.
The highly valued sexual experience tends to shift from the drive directly to orgasm to a fuller erotic life. Affection, cuddling and emotional closeness are increasingly important. Instead of a quick orgasm, gay men in this age community reach for what one author calls
Thomas Gass, a dentist in California, has survived the curse—twice. The curse? Gass is a gay bloke whose only sexual attraction is to men significantly older than he is.
Gass lost his first companion, 28 years his senior, through the slowly decaying effects of Lou Gehrig’s disease after they had been together for 13 years. After recovering from his grief, he launch love again with a man 18 years older but endured another tragic loss when his second partner died of pancreatic cancer after they had spent 17 years together. Still a relatively new man, Gass might wonder whether or not to take a chance on loving an older guy again. For him, however, the choice is between an older man or no man at all. Gass and his friends—all of whom had confused older life partners—have labeled their abiding sexual attraction “the curse of creature attracted to older men.”
I began to study queer relationships with age disparities while conducting research for my book, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight. Gass and I started to correspond after he and his friends had read and discussed my essay, “Age as a Factor in Sexual Orientation and Attraction.” He wrote that in their discussion, some co
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